LEARNING TO FORGIVE + LETTING GO
Forgiveness is important when learning to move on and leaving the past behind. It’s not just about forgiving others for the hurt and pain they might have caused you. It is also about you forgiving yourself overall. When we consistently remind ourselves those situations in our heads, over and over again, we fall into that mental state of staying stuck in the past. It’s a on going cycle that will not stop unless that thought is broken. The only person who can break that though is you.
But also forgiving is not only about forgiving others, letting go isn’t just about letting go of the past. It’s also about letting go of toxic relationships, negative thoughts/surroundings, bad habits, and bad beliefs. It’s about letting go of the false things we keep re-minding ourselves with, over and over again. Be committed to letting go, self discipline is needed sometimes.
HAVING AN UNDERSTANDING + GETTING RID OF THE PAST
There comes a time when everything you go through in life might just repeats itself. Usually, it’s things like:
- Being argumentative
- Being in denial
- Holding on to the past
- Refusing to let go
- Blaming others for your actions
- Using your past circumstances as today
Sadly to say, some of the things we forever hold on to and the cycle we tend to create are ruinous and will lead a negative impact on our lives. Now there are some that actually use their past as motivation to move forward and to keep going, but their is also others who make up excuses to continuously be at stuck mode. Why? Because it’s more simple to make up excuses and living a lie, which we know we shouldn’t be doing at all.
BE WILLING FOR CHANGE
Change doesn’t necessary always happen right when you want it to. Most of the time we are forced into change. Accept that things aren’t going to always go your way and move on from it and just hope for better. Sometimes things aren’t just meant, but you have to realize that change is part of our lives. It is growth.
We can go through the most toughest storms but you definitely never want to stick in the past, be willing to let go of anything that’s not worth holding on to.
Sometimes expressing how you feel openly can be a good choice. Hiding your feelings honestly can make you feel worst. Be free, be open to express yourself in whatever way makes you feel good, just do it without no fear. Self-care is very important. It is tiresome holding up balled up feelings and not getting any kind of relief. Top three things i do to express myself openly.
- Write in journal
- Call some one close
Growing up and making changes is a big effort, but it definitely takes a lot of work. Be patient, be authentic, be willing to move forward and more open to new things in life.
NO BLAMING + BE COMMITTED + NO EXCUSES
Stop blaming others of your actions. We all have our own mindset and the way we look at things, and can’t no one stop the way we think, unless you see a DIFFERENCE! Own up to mistakes, and always remember that failure comes with all of this. Don’t put yourself down and blame yourself for anybody actions NOT EVEN YOURS! I use to blame myself for everything because i didn’t believe in myself or anyone else. All i did was put pressure on myself and blame me for every problem, when i know i shouldn’t have.
I was so insecure but now i found myself. I learned to put the past behind me and move forward. You can’t control everything that happens because maybe it was meant for it to happen that way. Leave the past, blaming, and negative energy somewhere else. You are wise enough to find peace and happiness within yourself and others. Remember you have the power, you have the strength, use it. NO EXCUSES!
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